Tomorrow is Valentine's Day so let's also spend a little time on our love & connection with our children. Tomorrow is my FREE workshop with the DOE, so drop me a note if I should expect to see you there ;).
Now more than ever, we are amidst an era of self awakening and some of the oldest wisdom traditions remind us of the importance of getting back to how we can live our lives in connection & relationship to one another. I think there's no better place to start than strengthening the quality of our relationship and communication within the nucleus of our families.
It has become increasingly more difficult to stay mindful and grounded to the here and now with all the pulls, distractions, latest technologies and other "helpful" modern day advances. The irony in all of this is that despite our worldly advances, our families, our bodies and even our cells still have the same primary needs to be met in order to function and flourish. In fact, the "Need to Connect" is so hardwired into our DNA that it's probably one of the most pivotal and vital forces that influences us. Healthy family relationships require love, connection, communication, compassion, validation and appreciation to equally function and flourish in the ways that our bodies and cells do. Our relationships mirror the needs of our bodies and so when you think about the conditions that make your body healthy, what are the parallel conditions that make you and your family healthy?
Judith E. Glaser has done profound scientific research that supports and describes how our cells mirror our cultures, or for today's purposes - our family. She emphasizes that healthy cells and healthy cultures are directly affected by the quality of relationships and more importantly the quality of conversations. She shares insightful context to the neurochemistry of conversations (oxytocin vs cortisol) and I ask that you consider this impact of navigating our family from a place of disconnect (or cortisol). Cortisol is FEAR BASED and is triggered when we feel fear, excluded, limited, judged, punished, dictated, etc. Oxytocin is TRUST BASED and promotes feeling included, appreciated, supported, valued, sharing, etc. So, how can we tangibly promote more conversation and connection with our children and increase those oxytocin levels?
If you really want to dig deep and take this work further, my 7 Levels of Mindful & Conscious Parenting Assessment closely looks at your stress profile allowing you to see and gain deeper insights into what your default modes are, how long you sit in the cortisol range of emotions and thought processes. We also explore what it means and looks like to start accessing the higher levels of more mindful and conscious thinking, feeling and behaving for more positive and conscious parenting results.
So, in this week of showing a little more love and oxytocin to our little Valentine's, I hope you've gained an idea or two of how to deepen your relationship with your children over the coming days. Our job as parents is continuously evolving and it's hard because these little people, who become big people, are an extension and manifestation of who we are and how we show up. Set your intention of making a Quality Conversation!
“I work from home and it’s been really hard juggling my time and attention between my home business and my kids who are in such different stages. I came to Sandra because I’m not practicing what I preach and my kids give me some harsh reality checks! I know I need to change the status quo when my kids have to make me aware when I’m not engaged with them or when I don’t follow through on a promise. Saying "yes" to this forced me to “show up” for myself and my kids. We can’t go at life alone, especially when it comes to parenting. This has been a successful experience because I slowed down and shifted focus. We need a community to find our rhythm and I loved my tribe!” (mom of 16, 12 and 9 year olds)