Time keeps flying as my due date for baby #3 is nearing with her anticipated September 7th arrival. I’ll be using my final month to hunker down with my family – connecting, preparing and being mindful of these summer days before our four-some becomes a five-some.
As I set my own intention for August, I use this time with you to ask some similar questions:
I know how much school, homework and expectations for achievement can really take up our mental and emotional space during the school year. In fact, for so many of the parents I work with homework is one the big offenders of our power struggles, bribery and threats.
I’ve been talking a lot about how to use the summer and enjoy the gift of “free time” that it brings. From reveling in carefree unstructured days to helping ourselves and our families get on some new systems and routines before the craze of the new school year.
Well, I’m here to also share and offer a gentle reminder of calm and patience. It is often shared that it takes 21 days to form a new habit. However, that number is in fact the "the minimum amount of time needed to adapt to a new change.”
“New research from a study conducted by Phillippa Lally, a health psychology researcher at University College London shows that...
...on average, it takes more than 2 months before a new behavior becomes automatic — 66 days to be exact." (JamesClear.com)
So, how does all this connect with parenting?
So how’s the down time and just “being” going?
How’s another week of summer under your family’s belt?
What’s something you wish to be different this summer with your family?
Well, summer is a great season to hone in on what may need tweaking in your home and in your relationship with your child(ren). The bustle of school, after school activities and homework is out of the way. And, even if your child is in camp, it’s a much different pace and set of expectations than what’s been going on throughout the school year.
Let’s say you’d like to help your child gain more confidence and independence over the next two months. First, high five to you as this is great and something that will reap many benefits and rewards in your relationship with one another.