Time keeps flying as my due date for baby #3 is nearing with her anticipated September 7th arrival. I’ll be using my final month to hunker down with my family – connecting, preparing and being mindful of these summer days before our four-some becomes a five-some.
As I set my own intention for August, I use this time with you to ask some similar questions:
My mom was always great at letting me know that Valentine’s Day was not just about romantic love, but also a day of honoring the love between parents and their children.
For as long as I can remember, my mom would have a sweet loving card prepared for us with one little sweet treat to accompany it. It wasn’t a day for gift giving or trinkets. It was kept simple and made to be about the heartfelt words and actions of love and appreciation both my parents expressed to each of their kids. To this day, my parents still send my husband and I Valentine’s day cards by mail – and to my children as well.
With so much to kick off a new, different and great 2018 I know this will be a year where so much positive change and transformation will happen in your relationship with your children.
As Joanne Tsianos and I keep inching our way to the final touches of our 5-module Parenting E-Course, I’d like this week’s message to touch upon ways we can keep developing a grounded and resilient child.
I received many positive emails and direct messages on my social media pages from last week’s boost on “caught stealing” – including notes from parents and grandparents! I think it’s because the very moment was so relatable while my response to my child felt like, “Wow! I don’t know if I would’ve been able to remain calm and handle it the same way.”
Here's one response: "Wow! What a beautiful story. I don’t know what I would have done in this situation. I definitely may have gotten really upset and made the situation worse. Thank you so much for sharing." - Kristin Dunnigan
As a fellow mom, I am here to say I am no different than you. Yes! You too have what it takes to shift, adjust and intentional craft a more empowered conversation in those hair-raising times. I too have my setbacks and then re-think my next step to get back on course. Sometimes it’s a “do-over,” an apology to my kids on how I could have done it differently, maybe even admitting to myself that I expected something in the moment that they weren’t capable of meeting or perhaps that it’s time to take a stronger lead in “teaching” them my expectation with built-in time for practicing it.
As I get ready to co-launch my e-course with Queen Bee Joanne Tsianos, I think today’s story is a good reflection of the "in-the-moment" and real-life use of the topics and themes we're covering in the course modules. Here are just some topics to look forward to: Getting on the Same Page, Language & How To Use It, Validating without Spoiling, Conscious Discipline & Consequences, etc.
In the meantime, enjoy my real-life story with my son:
Monday was MLK day and the kids were off from school. We took advantage of a nice quality day at home and I took the kids out for lunch where we then did a quick stop at CVS. We got home, kicked off the shoes, hung the coats and settled in when my son pulls out a TicTac pack from his pocket. I hadn’t quite registered yet what had happened.