Happy belated Father's Day to all my dads. As we celebrated my husband and the grandfather's yesterday, I sat on this phrase I came across in a card - "Each Family Member is Here for a Special Purpose."
Many times this purpose may not be obvious to us when we're in the midst of tension and frustration and our children don't conform to our expectations of them. One of the hardest things to do as a parent is to let go of those expectations because in many ways it's all we know since it's how we've been groomed to parent by our own parents. Think about it, even now as adults, how often are we carrying around the lingering effects of NOT meeting our parents expectations - fulfilling their perceived purpose of us? In what ways do we still carry the "I'm not enough ______" syndrome?
If you repeat the phrase "each family member is here for a special purpose," how does it encourage you to engage your children (or perhaps even your partner/spouse) differently? One of the most important opportunities we can provide for our children is the opportunity to explore their purpose and find out how to sing their own "song" and not judge this song against how we sing it.
Sometimes a child will know at an early age (between 4-6 years old) what they would like to do as an adult, and most times a "passion" does not appear until the child's later years. As advocates and cheerleaders of our children's journey in finding their purpose, may we connect with ourselves in how we lead the charge in this important journey of self-discovery that our children are navigating while feeling secure, a sense of belonging, supported in seen or unseen potential, trusted, inspired and loved unconditionally.
Drop me a note and let's chat! Enjoy the week ahead as I'm happy to support you on your parenting journey. Burning questions, your curiosity or need for clarity are welcomed ;).
Stay motivated and inspired to PARENT DIFFERENTLY.
Your best self and parent is waiting!