The holiday season is upon us and as I've been conducting this season's Parenting Tribe mastermind group I'd like to take this newsletter to discuss the importance of boundaries, limit setting and taking responsibility!
As we figure out how to empower our kids to be successful in their lives, connecting with their gifts, talents, interests and strengths, we need to first be open and vulnerable to the "everyday moments" in our very own homes. I think of these everyday moments like the billions of tiny snowflakes needed to pack a one great big beautiful snowball. When we pack in all of our everyday moments and pause to observe and notice our great big beautiful children, what do we see? These moments, shaped by our parenting, encourage our children to step into their greatness.
So, let's take another pause and observe. When things don't go our way (particularly when our kids trigger those buttons of ours) how are we modeling the way we respond to the setbacks, frustration, defiance, stress, fatigue? When we begin to take responsibility for how our lives are shaped, the choices we makes and the outcomes/results of those decisions then the better we are to be in a position to expect and teach our children to do the same. This means checking ourselves with the blaming, complaining and excuses we come up with to justify why things are the way they are. It's in stepping back and observing our own inconsistencies with our parenting. We want our children to respect boundaries, respond to the limits we set and take responsibility for the different things in their lives. However, dare I ask, how often have we made exceptions, caved in or allowed the "but mom ..." dictate what follows?
As we create awareness around the little moments that snowball into the big ones, we will equip ourselves and our children on the HOW of setting and respecting limits, boundaries and responsibilities. Take the initiative to shift perspective away from our children and turn the spotlight onto ourselves.
Let's take some baby steps:
Next week's message I will continue more on this topic and get a little deeper. The above steps are more than enough to get started. Accountability is key, so drop me a note on how you're doing.
Share your thoughts with me and remember to stay motivated and inspired to PARENT DIFFERENTLY. Your best self and parent is ready for it!