As parents, being “mindful’ of our emotions and beliefs will determine how we show up to our children, how we manage stressors, how we discipline and how much energy we have to engage with our family. So, when it comes to asserting our parental role (or what i like to call our parental leadership), what is our mindset because our mindset is at the core of it all. Are we coming from a catabolic place rooted in worry, guilt, frustration, anger, strugglet? Or is it coming from an anabolic place rooted in compassion, abundance, opportunity, personal accountability, collaboration?
Naturally, if our mindset is rooted in the catabolic then our approach, words, actions and interactions will imply uncertainty, inconsistency and lack of confidence. Have you ever observed a family dynamic and asked yourself, "wow, so who's actually running the show here?"
On the other hand, if our mindset is based on the anabolic approaches we’ll see opportunities all around us. Our words, actions and interactions will convey optimism and trust in our children. Have you ever observed a family dynamic and thought to yourself, "wow, they seem to always know how to handle things - I feel like they 'get' their kids and their kids 'get' them."
Here’s an example of an internal dialogue that promotes a positive and effective parenting mindset:
When I am having dinner with my children, I will confidently promote my parental leadership. I will be calm and persistent, even when I am given attitude to help clean up or to stay seated. I will stay optimistic because my family responds best and appreciates a more positive attitude. I will prepare myself ahead of time with ways to tap into my children’s abilities and skills to encourage their involvement in a pleasant family dinner/eating experience.
Check out these 5 Core Components that make up a positive and effective mindset:
1. Abundance – “My family is loving, growing and learning from each experience.”
2. Courage – “I am confidant that my children are capable to get involved in family duties/responsibilities in meaningful ways”
3. Persistence – “I will keep going and stay true to my words, even when someone is having a melt-down”
4. Optimism – “My children trust me, enjoy spending time with me and I appreciate when we share quality time”
5. Value – “My day-to-day role and responsibility matters. I have impact and my influence runs deep.”
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