As we're in the throws of the holidays, I know I'm not alone in this year feeling "busier" then previous ones. Have you felt that way too? Perhaps you may even have some family drama occupying your mental space that's making the season a little less filled with "peace and joy."
With families of all shapes, sizes, quirks, idiosyncrasies and distances it can be easy not to enjoy the holidays. It's totally normal and OK to sit with the frustration that can come during this time of year, but then it's how long we let those bubbling feelings and racing thoughts sit inside and fester. When we let those catabolic thoughts and feelings filter the way we experience our holiday, we allow it to create our experience.
As we look for ways to bring our conscious parenting into effect this season, let's make the anabolic choice - the conscious intention - to create a QUALITY filled holiday experience for us and our family that looks, sounds and feels empowering, joyous and celebratory.
So, how do we do that? ...
Well, first we give ourselves the space to vent. Vent with a fellow conscious sibling, spouse, friend or coach- yours truly is certainly available. Yes, venting promotes the release of the catabolic energy trap that this low level of attitude and perspective keeps us stuck and disgruntled in. Challenge those lower levels of thinking/feeling and begin to de-personalize what's upsetting you.
"What's another way to look at this?"
"How else can I take this to mean?"
"What can I do to respond differently?"
"How would (insert a person whom you admire and respect) handle this?"
"How can I be part of the solution?"
As we move up the rungs of the anabolic/conscious ladder, the more we are able to exercise and expand our mindset to consider other methods, styles and approaches that dis-empower the negative effect a holiday experience can have over us and our family. Begin pushing your current perspective to include...
"How can we all 'win' this holiday so we have warm & positive memories?"
"In what ways can I both take care of my needs and those with whom I'm celebrating?"
"What benefit do I and my family get from partaking in this experience/celebration?"
"What can I say (or not say) to better serve myself and my family."
Take back control of your holidays and consciously identify the deeper purpose and meaning of the memories you're creating for your family. This is a time of bonding, connecting, celebrating and coming together. Let these last 4 words guide your intentions and how you bring them to fruition.
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